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Now, Women, listen up here's what the men want you to know about impressing THEM on the first date: (1) Do not discuss your Ex. This was far and away the most common complaint. If you speak glowingly of the former love, he figures you'll go back; if you speak ill of him, he thinks you have issues to resolve. You can't win this one. Caveat: Don't ask about his ex either until he brings it up probably many dates later. (2) Avoid serious topics. A first date is not the time to tell him you're on Prozac, your friends won't speak to you, or you were (abused/neglected/ridiculed) as a child. While sharing intimate information is a perfect way to bond with another woman, it's a sure way to alienate a man. Caveat: Save the highly personal and emotional talks for once you know he genuinely CARES. (3) Don't tell him your biological clock is set to ALARM. It's okay to acknowledge you look forward to kids someday to complement a wonderful marriage, but remember the point of the first date: to get to know this man to determine if you can create a fulfilling relationship not make him feel you're interviewing potential fathers for your unborn children. Caveat: If you want a sperm donor, go to a sperm bank. (4) Be positive and enthusiastic. Your date wants you to have a good time. He's probably not as suave with you as he is at the office. Give him positive reinforcement and let him know he's doing a good job of entertaining you. "You picked a great restaurant," "This wine is perfect with the meal," etc. Caveat: Even if the food/restaurant/service is terrible, keep your comments focused on what's good. (5) Offer to pay for your portion of dinner. Men feel resentful that some women just expect them to pick up the tab for everything. A gentleman won't let you pay if he invited you out but he will definitely appreciate the gesture. Be sure to sincerely thank him for treating you to a lovely dinner. Caveat: Don't argue and insist on paying unless you want to insult him or end the evening early. (6) Be flexible, but state preferences. If dinner ends early enough and you both want to continue your date, don't give him the old "whatever you want to do is fine with me" refrain. Let him know up front if you like to dance, walk on the beach, detest bars, etc. Then agree on something you will both enjoy. If you go along with something he chooses and don't have fun, the purpose is defeated. Caveat: Don't go to your place OR his on the first date. (7) Pretend his mom is chaperoning the date. You wouldn't curse, drink too much, smoke, do drugs, dirty dance or talk nasty, if Mom were watching. Well, pretend she is. Face it, the double standard still exists. If you want to make it past the bedroom with this guy, keep it clean. Caveat: Don't be unnatural, just save your naughty self for much later in the relationship when it's appropriate. (8) If the dates goes well, be prepared for him to ask you out again. If you're not interested in seeing him, say so gently. "It's been fun but I don't think the chemistry is right," or something to that effect. Caveat: If you are genuinely busy for the next couple of weeks, reassure him you want to spend time together when things settle down. (9) Would you like a kiss, a hug or a handshake at the end of the evening? Don't make him guess wrong and end up offending you and embarrassing himself. Your body language can speak volumes. Standing close, gazing into his eyes and tilting your head to one side will let him know the coast is clear for a kiss. Extending your hand as soon as you've arrived at your door lets him know you want to keep him at arm's length. If you want a hug without a kiss, that's tricky and can send mixed signals. As you put out your arms, say, "I'd like to give you a hug and tell you what a good time I've had." Caveat: If you decide while in his warm embrace you've changed your mind and would like a kiss, well I doubt you need coaching on that! (10) Call the next day to thank him for the date, if indeed he paid for it. Men don't understand women who stand on principle and refuse to be the first to call. Like a thank you note, a thank you call is polite and perfectly acceptable for either gender. Caveat: Don't wait several days. I hope this gives women a better understanding of what our men members hope for on a first date. Remember, the point is to have fun, get to know each other better, and give Cupid a chance to strike if the chemistry is right.

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Ten Tips for First Date Success for WOMEN by http://www.wcsclub.com

Above, I offered men tips for impressing the women on the first date and did I ever get feedback from the men! Many seem to think they know better what women want than the women themselves. Bear in mind, I'm just acting as the go-between, relaying majority opinion from one gender to the other. Whether you agree is unimportant. Now, Women, listen up here's what the men want you to know about impressing THEM on the first date:

(1) Do not discuss your Ex. This was far and away the most common complaint. If you speak glowingly of the former love, he figures you'll go back; if you speak ill of him, he thinks you have issues to resolve. You can't win this one. Caveat: Don't ask about his ex either until he brings it up probably many dates later.

(2) Avoid serious topics. A first date is not the time to tell him you're on Prozac, your friends won't speak to you, or you were (abused/neglected/ridiculed) as a child. While sharing intimate information is a perfect way to bond with another woman, it's a sure way to alienate a man. Caveat: Save the highly personal and emotional talks for once you know he genuinely CARES.

(3) Don't tell him your biological clock is set to ALARM. It's okay to acknowledge you look forward to kids someday to complement a wonderful marriage, but remember the point of the first date: to get to know this man to determine if you can create a fulfilling relationship not make him feel you're interviewing potential fathers for your unborn children. Caveat: If you want a sperm donor, go to a sperm bank.

(4) Be positive and enthusiastic. Your date wants you to have a good time. He's probably not as suave with you as he is at the office. Give him positive reinforcement and let him know he's doing a good job of entertaining you. "You picked a great restaurant," "This wine is perfect with the meal," etc. Caveat: Even if the food/restaurant/service is terrible, keep your comments focused on what's good.

(5) Offer to pay for your portion of dinner. Men feel resentful that some women just expect them to pick up the tab for everything. A gentleman won't let you pay if he invited you out but he will definitely appreciate the gesture. Be sure to sincerely thank him for treating you to a lovely dinner. Caveat: Don't argue and insist on paying unless you want to insult him or end the evening early.

(6) Be flexible, but state preferences. If dinner ends early enough and you both want to continue your date, don't give him the old "whatever you want to do is fine with me" refrain. Let him know up front if you like to dance, walk on the beach, detest bars, etc. Then agree on something you will both enjoy. If you go along with something he chooses and don't have fun, the purpose is defeated. Caveat: Don't go to your place OR his on the first date.

(7) Pretend his mom is chaperoning the date. You wouldn't curse, drink too much, smoke, do drugs, dirty dance or talk nasty, if Mom were watching. Well, pretend she is. Face it, the double standard still exists. If you want to make it past the bedroom with this guy, keep it clean. Caveat: Don't be unnatural, just save your naughty self for much later in the relationship when it's appropriate.

(8) If the dates goes well, be prepared for him to ask you out again. If you're not interested in seeing him, say so gently. "It's been fun but I don't think the chemistry is right," or something to that effect. Caveat: If you are genuinely busy for the next couple of weeks, reassure him you want to spend time together when things settle down.

(9) Would you like a kiss, a hug or a handshake at the end of the evening? Don't make him guess wrong and end up offending you and embarrassing himself. Your body language can speak volumes. Standing close, gazing into his eyes and tilting your head to one side will let him know the coast is clear for a kiss. Extending your hand as soon as you've arrived at your door lets him know you want to keep him at arm's length. If you want a hug without a kiss, that's tricky and can send mixed signals. As you put out your arms, say, "I'd like to give you a hug and tell you what a good time I've had." Caveat: If you decide while in his warm embrace you've changed your mind and would like a kiss, well I doubt you need coaching on that!

(10) Call the next day to thank him for the date, if indeed he paid for it. Men don't understand women who stand on principle and refuse to be the first to call. Like a thank you note, a thank you call is polite and perfectly acceptable for either gender. Caveat: Don't wait several days.

I hope this gives women a better understanding of what our men members hope for on a first date. Remember, the point is to have fun, get to know each other better, and give Cupid a chance to strike if the chemistry is right.