Conversation Do's and Don'ts by http://www.wcsclub.com

It's time again for a few friendly reminders about appropriate dinner topics as well as offering a few babble boosters for those awkward moments when it seems everyone is intensely interested in their plates. The social dinner for six format, is structured to facilitate an easygoing exchange. However, even the most silver-tongued among us could use a refresher course.

Let's start with the DON'Ts

Don't discuss politics. With the events of late, it's natural to want to turn your dinner chair into a soapbox but keep the talk limited to your admiration for our heroes or where to find a flag. Please withhold your potentially controversial opinions for a more suitable venue

Don't discuss religion. See above.

Don't gossip about fellow club members. You'd be surprised how often I hear about this faux pas. Dating horror stories is a popular topic but it's not appropriate for our dinners. If you find you absolutely must share a story that involves another club member, refrain from using the person's occupation, city of residence and all other identifying information.

Don't complain. About anything. No one enjoys the company of a negative person.

Don't monopolize the conversation. You may be basking in the glow of the limelight but you can bet someone at the table wants to pull the plug. It's not just impolite, it's boring! Try to recognize when you're rambling and reroute the conversation to someone else.

Don't try to sell your product or service. You may love what you do for a living and want to talk about it all the time, but most people want a break from business when they go out to dinner. If someone seems more than politely interested in your line of work, give them a business card and offer to give a private sales pitch.

Don't divulge too much personal information. Not everyone wants to hear how you endured an abusive relationship or your past drug history. Save it for your sponsor.

Don't tell off-color or sexually graphic jokes. Play it safe-you don't know what may be offensive to your dining companions. NEVER tell jokes with racial, ethnic or gender biases. When in doubt, don't.

And now for the DO's!

Do notice the other diners. Does someone seem left out? Some people are shy and need to be drawn out a little. Ask them questions.

Do ask open-ended-as opposed to yes-and-no-questions. These often start with HOW and WHY. "How did you get into that line of work? Why did you decide to move here?" You get the idea.

Do stick to positive and lighthearted topics: pets, hobbies, interests

Do be brave and ask out someone who caught your interest. As you leave the restaurant, say how much you enjoyed meeting them and that you'd like to get to know them better maybe over lunch? (Social 8 note - let us know the next day)

Do be a good listener. Make eye contact and let the speaker know he/she is being heard: nod, smile, ask questions. Never interrupt.