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welcome how does it work joining Social 8 what our client's say what's new in events venues relationship coaching who we are privacy statement dating help great dating ideas frequently asked questions links we like contact us affirmations video's success stories media blog - read our blog here	Gaining the courage to start dating I have noticed a recent trend with some members at Social 8. While most of our members are enjoying the dinners and meeting new members, many are telling us that all 5 other attending members were lovely and they would be happy to catch up with any of them again be it for a one on one or at another Social 8 event. Now this pleases us enormously as it shows that we truly have a successful program on our hands. The down side of this however is that with many members saying this and not being specific about naming who they would like to have contact with, we can often be at a standoff. This means numbers are not being swapped with potential new friends. I understand culturally in the past it has been traditionally for ladies to sit back and wait and see who may want to contact them however we are seeing more of this happening too from the male members. It is encouraging to know so many of you are enjoying each others company at the dinners however I wonder if many of you could be taking these potentially nice moments a step further and perhaps forming friendships or even potentially gaining dating partners. There could be many reasons for this and I understand the vulnerability in putting our-self ‘out there’. Perhaps some of you are remember past times when you have been rejected. We have all experienced this in the past. It does not matter how successful someone is, nor how talented, wealthy, attractive or popular. Each of us has a 7 or maybe a 17 year-old inside us who remembers how it feels to be rejected. And none of us which to voluntarily experience this feeling again. I also find it interesting that many men are now sitting back with a wait and see attitude to who may enjoy their company. So why are we noticing this change in men too? I have pondered the thought that for the past 20 or so years, we women have been asking men to get in-touch with their feminine side. I think of it more as asking men to be more in-touch with their emotions and sensitivity. Many men have worked very hard to open themselves emotionally and succeeded in doing this. Often however, to find that their now more delicate emotional state has resulted in hurt and pain when a relationship has ended. Men are no different to women in that none of us wants to be hurt. We do not enjoy the feeling and have no desire to have a repeat performance. So perhaps it is up to us women to now understand men are delicate emotionally too and lets respect their emotions the same way we have been asking men to respect and understand our emotions. So how can we gain confidence to put our-self out there, yet protect our ego’s? Perhaps it could lie in our mindset of what dating is. Talking to people who have lived and dated in America, it seems dating in Australia is a much more serious occurrence than in the States. Now I know I am doing some shocking generalisation here, however it does seem that in general Americans take the whole swapping of phone numbers and going out a lot more casually. They seem to have casual dating as a part of their culture where it is acceptable to date someone once or twice and simply enjoy those nice nights out. Often in Australia we find our dating culture can be more about dating for the assessment of a life partner. So I gently suggest here that maybe a mindset more American of lets go for a date and have a nice night out might free some from the more daunting thought of rejection as a potential life partner. I truly believe to find new friends and to start dating is a numbers game. The more people we meet, the more ‘dates’ or can I say nice nights out with someone newly met, the greater our chances of finding new lifelong friends or a life partner. So perhaps changing your thoughts to ‘I would like to see them again for another fun night’ could be a better mind set than….do I want to swap numbers with them which seems to imply so much more. So next time you are attending a dinner and you find the other members company enjoyable, I encourage you to consider naming some members to Robyn and I for you to potentially swap numbers with so you can enjoy another nice night in their company. And thank you as always for being such pro-active wonderful members of Social 8. It is kudos to you that we have so many comments of ‘all the members were great’ post dinner. Warmest regards Jane

Gaining the courage to start dating

I have noticed a recent trend with some members at Social 8. While most of our members are enjoying the dinners and meeting new members, many are telling us that all 5 other attending members were lovely and they would be happy to catch up with any of them again be it for a one on one or at another Social 8 event. Now this pleases us enormously as it shows that we truly have a successful program on our hands. The down side of this however is that with many members saying this and not being specific about naming who they would like to have contact with, we can often be at a standoff. This means numbers are not being swapped with potential new friends.

I understand culturally in the past it has been traditionally for ladies to sit back and wait and see who may want to contact them however we are seeing more of this happening too from the male members. It is encouraging to know so many of you are enjoying each others company at the dinners however I wonder if many of you could be taking these potentially nice moments a step further and perhaps forming friendships or even potentially gaining dating partners.

There could be many reasons for this and I understand the vulnerability in putting our-self ‘out there’. Perhaps some of you are remember past times when you have been rejected. We have all experienced this in the past. It does not matter how successful someone is, nor how talented, wealthy, attractive or popular. Each of us has a 7 or maybe a 17 year-old inside us who remembers how it feels to be rejected. And none of us which to voluntarily experience this feeling again.

I also find it interesting that many men are now sitting back with a wait and see attitude to who may enjoy their company. So why are we noticing this change in men too? I have pondered the thought that for the past 20 or so years, we women have been asking men to get in-touch with their feminine side. I think of it more as asking men to be more in-touch with their emotions and sensitivity. Many men have worked very hard to open themselves emotionally and succeeded in doing this. Often however, to find that their now more delicate emotional state has resulted in hurt and pain when a relationship has ended. Men are no different to women in that none of us wants to be hurt. We do not enjoy the feeling and have no desire to have a repeat performance. So perhaps it is up to us women to now understand men are delicate emotionally too and lets respect their emotions the same way we have been asking men to respect and understand our emotions.

So how can we gain confidence to put our-self out there, yet protect our ego’s? Perhaps it could lie in our mindset of what dating is. Talking to people who have lived and dated in America, it seems dating in Australia is a much more serious occurrence than in the States. Now I know I am doing some shocking generalisation here, however it does seem that in general Americans take the whole swapping of phone numbers and going out a lot more casually. They seem to have casual dating as a part of their culture where it is acceptable to date someone once or twice and simply enjoy those nice nights out. Often in Australia we find our dating culture can be more about dating for the assessment of a life partner. So I gently suggest here that maybe a mindset more American of lets go for a date and have a nice night out might free some from the more daunting thought of rejection as a potential life partner.

I truly believe to find new friends and to start dating is a numbers game. The more people we meet, the more ‘dates’ or can I say nice nights out with someone newly met, the greater our chances of finding new lifelong friends or a life partner. So perhaps changing your thoughts to ‘I would like to see them again for another fun night’ could be a better mind set than….do I want to swap numbers with them which seems to imply so much more.

So next time you are attending a dinner and you find the other members company enjoyable, I encourage you to consider naming some members to Robyn and I for you to potentially swap numbers with so you can enjoy another nice night in their company.

And thank you as always for being such pro-active wonderful members of Social 8. It is kudos to you that we have so many comments of ‘all the members were great’ post dinner.

Warmest regards

Jane