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welcome how does it work joining Social 8 what our client's say what's new in events venues relationship coaching who we are privacy statement dating help great dating ideas frequently asked questions links we like contact us affirmations video's success stories media blog - read our blog here	Do you want sex or love this Valentines Day? Achieving a long term relationship has never been easy however with the prevalence of casual sex in our society these days, it is amazing anyone makes it past the initial infatuation stage. The first three months of a new relationship is an exciting time. You have finally met someone who makes your heart race. You can’t stop mentioning their name to friends and time travels painfully slow as you wait for the next date. Everything this person does pleases you, even things that would annoy many people. All you see is the excitement of someone special in your life and the desire to have a full blown soulful connection of love. So head first you go straight into this relationship. You may not have had sex for a while and the thrill of physical intimacy is exhilarating, your desire to please them is foremost in your mind. Sadly however many wake up from this period to find that once again you are facing a stranger. Someone you have nothing in common with and those cute quirky traits that endeared you to them not so long ago are now driving you nuts. Meeting someone you are attracted to initially usually comes about after a physical connection has been made. Physically you find them desirable, pleasing and attractive. Yet to sustain a long term successful relationship, you need to be connected in five different areas. Physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual and financial. When someone is physically drawn to be with another, they are only connecting on one level giving any potential relationship a very rocky start. I encourage you to explore your top not negotiable qualities you desire in a partner in each of the five categories. In-fact write them down and make them your new rules for a potential new partner. If you only like people with a great smile, fit body, certain hair colour and height, then I encourage you to chose the one quality that you could not imagine your partner being without. And please remember, you’re not perfect so they shouldn’t need to be either. Now execute the same exercise for intellectual. Must they be university educated or must they enjoy political discussions or love doing the daily quiz perhaps? Now for an emotional connection. Is this ideal person able to express their emotions? Are they to demonstrate good solid love felt relationships with family or friends? Perhaps you desire someone who can communicate from the heart or handles their emotions in a particular way. Spiritually do you require them to share your beliefs? Is there a particular upbringing that is important to you? Financially are they to match your situation or do you desire someone with similar or different future financial goals to yours? Now you are getting a picture of who could potentially be a good match for a serious relationship. Now when you meet someone you are physically attracted to, you also know what to look for in the other areas to give yourself the best chance of success. I also advise you to spend the first three months of a new relationship really getting to know this person. Gently find out the answers to your top 5 not negotiable qualities. And I highly recommend you leave having sex with this person until you have qualified them as a suitable candidate in all five areas. Sex too soon in a relationship clouds your initial judgement and prevents you from effectively and clearly seeing if they truly demonstrate the qualities you desire in a partner. And if they don’t match your top 5 qualities, then run fast as this will be a time wasting relationship. So have fun creating you fantasy partner then get out their and meet them safely knowing you will recognise someone suitable from the start. It just might save you a lot of time and heartache. Jane Jane Donovan is a director of Adelaide’s leading Social club for business and professional singles,

Do you want sex or love this Valentines Day?

Achieving a long term relationship has never been easy however with the prevalence of casual sex in our society these days, it is amazing anyone makes it past the initial infatuation stage. The first three months of a new relationship is an exciting time. You have finally met someone who makes your heart race. You can’t stop mentioning their name to friends and time travels painfully slow as you wait for the next date. Everything this person does pleases you, even things that would annoy many people. All you see is the excitement of someone special in your life and the desire to have a full blown soulful connection of love. So head first you go straight into this relationship. You may not have had sex for a while and the thrill of physical intimacy is exhilarating, your desire to please them is foremost in your mind. Sadly however many wake up from this period to find that once again you are facing a stranger. Someone you have nothing in common with and those cute quirky traits that endeared you to them not so long ago are now driving you nuts.

Meeting someone you are attracted to initially usually comes about after a physical connection has been made. Physically you find them desirable, pleasing and attractive. Yet to sustain a long term successful relationship, you need to be connected in five different areas. Physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual and financial. When someone is physically drawn to be with another, they are only connecting on one level giving any potential relationship a very rocky start. I encourage you to explore your top not negotiable qualities you desire in a partner in each of the five categories. In-fact write them down and make them your new rules for a potential new partner. If you only like people with a great smile, fit body, certain hair colour and height, then I encourage you to chose the one quality that you could not imagine your partner being without. And please remember, you’re not perfect so they shouldn’t need to be either. Now execute the same exercise for intellectual. Must they be university educated or must they enjoy political discussions or love doing the daily quiz perhaps? Now for an emotional connection. Is this ideal person able to express their emotions? Are they to demonstrate good solid love felt relationships with family or friends? Perhaps you desire someone who can communicate from the heart or handles their emotions in a particular way. Spiritually do you require them to share your beliefs? Is there a particular upbringing that is important to you? Financially are they to match your situation or do you desire someone with similar or different future financial goals to yours?

Now you are getting a picture of who could potentially be a good match for a serious relationship. Now when you meet someone you are physically attracted to, you also know what to look for in the other areas to give yourself the best chance of success. I also advise you to spend the first three months of a new relationship really getting to know this person. Gently find out the answers to your top 5 not negotiable qualities. And I highly recommend you leave having sex with this person until you have qualified them as a suitable candidate in all five areas. Sex too soon in a relationship clouds your initial judgement and prevents you from effectively and clearly seeing if they truly demonstrate the qualities you desire in a partner. And if they don’t match your top 5 qualities, then run fast as this will be a time wasting relationship. So have fun creating you fantasy partner then get out their and meet them safely knowing you will recognise someone suitable from the start. It just might save you a lot of time and heartache.

Jane

Jane Donovan is a director of Adelaide’s leading Social club for business and professional singles,